Do you feel like life is an endless struggle? Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m not enough,” “I can’t cope,” “I’m unlovable,” or “I’m unworthy”? If so, you may be trapped in a victim mindset…

The inner critic and the inner child are two sides of the same coin, deeply connected in shaping how we think, feel, and navigate life. The inner child represents our emotional core—the part of us that carries the innocence, wonder, and vulnerability of childhood. It also holds onto wounds from those early years, harboring beliefs about who we are and what we deserve.

When I couldn’t see my audience’s eyes, I felt disconnected. It reminded me of how a comedian “reads the room” during a performance—gauging the audience’s reactions to adjust their delivery. Without that feedback, I felt lost. I realized I wasn’t just looking for signs that my message was landing; I was also seeking approval and acceptance.

I was delighted to be interviewed by Anna Maxted for an article for the Daily Mail on dating for the over-50’s.

In the journey of personal development, the roles we internalise from our early life experiences play a significant part in shaping our thoughts, beliefs, and our subsequent behaviours. Among these internalised roles, two stand out in stark contrast: the Nurturing Parent and the Critical Parent. Understanding and balancing these aspects within our psyche is essential for fostering a healthy self-concept and achieving personal growth.

Sarah felt overwhelmed and lost her usual confidence. This is her story of how she overcame exhaustion and found balance in her life by exploring and strengthening her personal and interpersonal boundaries. She regained her self-worth and learned to express her needs effectively.

We introverts have amazing strengths of insightfulness and empathy. We tend to listen more than we speak and therefore more considerate of others.  People are touched by how well introverts understand them because we are paying attention to subtle details…

Some of us resist self compassion because they confuse it with selfishness or self pity. Some people fear that self compassion will have a negative backlash of becoming self indulgent, self absorbed and out of control. For other people, the idea of engaging in self compassion may trigger a threat response.

Self-limiting beliefs are the invisible barriers that hold you back from achieving your true potential. They are the negative thoughts  and beliefs you hold about yourself, your abilities, and your  interpretation of the world around you. This can constrain your  growth and limit your success. I want to delve into the nature of  self-limiting beliefs, explore their impact on our lives, and discuss  strategies for overcoming them.

This accreditation process is overseen by the IAPCM, a life coaching accreditation organisation which my inner child was still perceiving as just yet another institution. However, it felt important to me as an adult, and importantly for my clients, to achieve a level of expertise and to have that recognised for my own sense of self worth. Naturally, there was a lot of reading and learning to be done leading up to the final accreditation exam.

Sometimes the most difficult thing to say is also the simplest. I’ve noticed in recent months a number of my clients have difficulty with saying No!

Do you often ask yourself, "who am I?" Perhaps this story will help. I discuss how we are still using ancient primitive programming to protect ourselves in an abundant modern day society, that doesn’t serve us and limits our potential for growth.

I am pleased to partner with Kindling Dating as their ‘silver fox’ dating coach. Have a read of the blog post I wrote for them.

My journey that brought me to this juncture in my life has been heavily based on a deep-seated desire to comprehend the workings of life, my place in the world, and my interactions with others. ……I was raised in a family environment where certain essential needs were overlooked. Although my basic needs such as food and shelter were met, there was a notable absence of psychological and emotional sustenance.

Life Coaches understand that inner (psychological) conflicts or dramas, are manifested as outer conflicts or life dramas. Life challenges that come out of nowhere, and are accompanied by exaggerated negative emotions. In this free coaching video, I explore the nature of inner conflicts and how they are created.

Everyone is entitled to their boundaries. It's your birthright. It's your body, and it's your mind. Your energy field and you are meant to be in charge of them. Your boundaries are your responsibility. If you're not implementing your boundaries, no-one is going to do it for you, and without boundaries you will frequently end up feeling energy depleted and vulnerable.

Picture the person who has a problem with setting boundaries. It could be your friend, your family member, or perhaps, it’s you. They never seem to have any time for themselves, they’re always the one waiting for their perpetually late friend, they’re the recipient of their sibling’s endless problem dump sessions, they often pick up the slack for their coworkers, and they’re easily talked into “just one more drink” by that friend who enjoys a tipple a little too much.

On my daily walk, I love to stop and admire a particular tree. This one is majestic and speaks to my heart with its beauty. But not only that, my daily reflections by this tree remind me of some valuable life lessons.

Social anxiety, angry outbursts (or inbursts!), and self-destructive behaviours are just a few examples of the ways in which our wayward Inner Child presents itself. It can also be behind the reason we find ourselves being taken advantage of, or in bad relationships over and over again.